The loss of my 16-year-old son Rand by suicide was the hardest, most gut-wrenching pain I could ever imagine. Heavy days and fitful nights of heartache.
If you are here reading this, you’ve likely lost a child, partner, parent, sibling or close friend by suicide, or you know someone who has. Perhaps several suicides have marked your life.
And maybe like I have … you’re experiencing a constant loop of questions in your mind:
“Why did they do this?”
“Why didn’t I see it?”
“Was this my fault?”
“What should I have done… better?”
“What are other people thinking?”
“What else is going to happen to me?”
If any of this sounds familiar, you are not alone.
I want you to know that not only is there hope for healing … there’s help.
First, please know…
I didn’t lose my son by overdose–he died by suicide. But while mentoring other moms like me, I got calls & emails from mothers facing loss by overdose, asking, “Will you please create a group for us, too?”
For many personal reasons I said YES… I’m no stranger to addiction. In my 20’s I lost my sweet mother to alcohol when she was 48. My former husband also struggled, mixing prescription drugs with alcohol. And, I have dear friends who’ve lost a child by drug overdose.
With every newscast & article about this national epidemic, I want to shout, “This has GOT to stop!!” There is so much to DO to end the crisis.
All the more important for moms to put the oxygen mask on OURSELVES first.
But let me take you back to the time before 2004, before Rand ended his life.
I’d been leading intensives across the US for years, helping people navigate through the darkest of times. I felt called to provide a safe space for sharing and tools to empower people to reclaim their lives.
All the while, I had no clue as to the personal tragedy that lay ahead in my own life.
When the worst hit home, the pain was beyond… Yet at the same time I was remarkably fortunate to have a powerful set of tools to help me handle the intensity.
But at the same time, I realized it wasn’t enough…
Over the next 12 years, I committed to learn everything I could to help people recover and thrive again:
- Completing graduate school, focusing on neuroscience & trauma healing
- Gaining certifications in integrative health & mind/body medicine
- Continuing to lead intensives in the US and internationally
- Speaking & leading workshops at national suicide prevention conferences
- Working with dear friend Iris Bolton, a leader in suicide prevention & aftercare, co-producing Iris’s Voices of Healing and Hope DVD
From these experiences I created the MindPeace Method® … A fully integrative approach designed for healing mind, body and soul. Especially when life blindsides us.
Now I want to give it to you.
Hello, I’m Elaine Alpert.
After Rand ended his life, I clearly remember my deep wish, wanting nothing more than to rewrite history and bring my son back. But of course we humans aren’t endowed with such power.
However… there are very real and powerful resources to heal the pain, the regrets, and the sense of brokenness you may be feeling.
In my work with people over time, here’s what I’ve come to know:
It’s human nature to take something that is already very hard to bear… and make it even harder.
It’s not that we mean to suffer more, but this is what happens…
- Crucially, there is the loss itself. Your grief is real, painfully so. Someone you love, someone you counted on to choose life made a very different decision – and you feel the distress.
- Then you wonder if there was something more you could’ve done to save them. Or, just as hard, you fear it was something you said or did that opened the door to suicide.
- On top of it all, you may agonize over how you’re ever going to get through this. And stressed out about what else could be around the corner?
At end of the day, we’re left with the maddening question,“Why did any of this have to happen?”
It’s common to add even more suffering on top of our heartbreak.
In this downward spiral, we feel overwhelmed and alone. Since there is no way to change what’s happened… we feel stuck in the pain. But, there is also good news here – you don’t have to get trapped in that cycle and prolong your grief.
I am here to tell you … You can find peace and even joy, again.
That’s why I’m inviting you to join me in a special program utilizing the MindPeace Method® …
Pathway to Peace of Mind
Healing Tools for Mothers After Loss By Overdose
In this 4-Session online program, we’ll go beyond talking about what happened. I will show you how to take charge of your own healing journey.
We’ll address key issues:
- Why my child, my family??
- Conflicting Emotions
- Relationship Strain
- Guilt & Regret
- Shame & Stigma
- Fear & Anxiety
- Anger & Resentment
- Worry about my other children
Here’s what you receive in the Program…
- Four engaging 90-minutes Sessions: After each tool is taught, you’ll benefit from seeing the Tools put into practice and learn how to use them in your everyday life.
Session 1: The Source of Our Extra Suffering
Reveal the root cause of your extra pain so you can do something about it, no matter who or what you’re facing. You’ll gain a profound tool to change the course of your healing.
Session 2: How to Unwind Your Cycle of Pain
Use this proven, practical tool to help you stop the swirl of pain and confusion, feel lighter and more resolved, whenever you choose to.
Session 3: The Truth of the Matter
How to get grounded, feel connected and grow confidence, even when very hard things are happening all around you. Get relief from victimhood, blame, guilt, and shame.
Session 4: Set the Pace for Your Future
Bring it all together in this session to open up more ease, clarity and possibility about the rest of your precious life. Recover a sense of peace…even if, right now, you can’t see how you could ever feel peace again!
- Skillful guidance from Elaine, drawing from 25 years of leading workshops, retreats & private clients.
- Your Private Session with Elaine for expert, individualized focus.
- Private Facebook group for Course members only.
- Downloadable Handouts for each Session.
- Streaming Video & Audio Recordings available 24 hours after each Session.
- Honest Connection with other Moms who want all of us to heal. Put an end to feeling alone with your loss.
- Key Tools and Strategies to unwind guilt, shame, anxiety, anger and pain.
- Prompt Tech Support to help you get set up online & handle your tech issues.
Pathway to Peace of Mind
Healing Tools for Mothers After Loss By OverdoseYes, please register me!
Soon after you register, you can schedule your appointment with Elaine. Private session by Phone, Skype or Zoom
New Course Dates Coming Soon!
All Sessions are recorded for streaming Video and downloadable Audio. Available to you, 24/7
A Mom shares about her loss & working with Elaine…
“My greatest fear became a reality when I lost my 18-year-old son, Julian, on Mother’s Day 2015 to an overdose while away at college. His death was the culmination of struggles with mental health issues and using drugs to self-medicate. But it came as such a shock because he’d been doing so well at college and seemed the happiest I’d ever seen him. For the first time in a very long time I had real hope. After he died I wondered what I had missed, if I’d ‘fallen asleep’ on my watch.
Thankfully, I knew what Elaine had been through with her loss. I knew she got it. Elaine was a role model with the qualities I wanted for myself. The tools she teaches not only saved me but changed my life in such positive ways. I finished graduate school and can clearly see my new purpose. I feel very connected to my family, and I’m content with my mothering. I no longer feel weighed down by guilt. I miss Julian, of course, and yet I feel very connected to him.
This program is the oxygen mask to put on yourself before you can put it on anyone else. I have hope for my own future and for the future of my family. I know this is what Julian wants for me!”
— Renee Hall-George, Atlanta, GA
“After each session I go back and look at the videos and take notes. I’ll treasure these notes, and reread them because of what I’ve learned here. When things get hard I know I have tools to help me again!” –C.R.
“I feel like I’m growing now versus the last five years. It was that same narrow pathway over and over, suffering with guilt and unable to have real fun. I pretended a lot. This is the first time, through this course and after having a private session, that I’ve felt more peaceful and free.” –M.S.
“The processes I have learned from Elaine have had profound and lasting effects. I have done a lot of work with therapies, workshops and group work, but Elaine’s ability to get to the heart of the matter and her techniques for healing are amazingly efficient, deep and immediate.” –J.H.
Who is this Program for?
[Important: ‘Pathway to Peace of Mind’ is NOT a substitute for therapy or medical attention.]
This Program is for YOU if …
- You are a mother who has lost a child to overdose, whether accidental or intentional.
- You feel ready to learn tools for healing–in terms of where you are in your own grief process, and have a desire to do more than ‘tell your story.’
- You may or may not be attending a support group, seeing a therapist, or going to a spiritual center — either way, this material can be an excellent adjunct.
- You are new to personal growth work or you’re quite seasoned. There is great value either way.
- You have internet access and a reliable computer, smart phone, or tablet.
Rand ended his life on my younger son’s 9th birthday, which threw an extra layer of heartache into the mix for all of us. He’s now 23 and doing well. I’m also happy to say that my husband Tom and I are celebrating our 31st anniversary this year. We’ve deepened our connection and made it through a very tough set of years together which included serious illness and the loss of his homebuilding business during the national housing crisis.
If Tom and I hadn’t used the MindPeace Method® I don’t know where we’d be today … likely our marriage would have suffered beyond repair. Anybody living with loss of family by suicide knows the inherent challenges.
Now it can be your turn to have this powerful program. Use it not only for yourself, but also for how this could impact your family, friends and workplace. Please, use these tools for the rest of your life!
“Elaine’s life’s work is sharing her own earned strength, wisdom and courage, and we are lucky to be recipients of those gifts!” –S.V.
“I learned so much and now I feel safe getting back to my life again. I would trust Elaine with any issue I was having. She is amazingly respectful of everyone.” –A.N.
“These past few weeks with Elaine have absolutely changed the view-finder on my life.” — A.V.T.
“I now feel untangled and unknotted… I can stand up straighter, my neck stopped hurting, my jaw is better, and I can actually exercise… The connection with all the other moms is a very healing, solid foundation for me.” — M.R.
“I’ve been to every single place there is for healing, but most of my healing has come through your workshops. It has made such a difference that I just want to go out and tell the world!” —MB.S.
“The past doesn’t creep up behind me and pull me under the waves of depression like it used to. Elaine’s classes were a catalyst for this tremendous change!” –K.C.
How is this different from a support group? This program meets online from any location with internet. It provides proprietary tools and a step-by-step method for dealing with regrets, fear, relentless questions, guilt, shame, emotional & physical pain. Since you get Recordings & Handouts from every Session, you can continue to use these tools in multiple areas of your life: Relationships, Family, Health, Finances & Work.
Won’t being ONLINE with such sensitive topics feel strange? For years the ONLY groups I led were in person so I had the same concern. I often hear women say they are surprised by how connecting our sessions are, even those who first resisted the idea. I work with mothers & wives/partners all over the country who are SO grateful to have found this community where they feel understood, safe and supported. And all without forfeiting the ease of being at home or away on a trip.
(I do offer in-person Weekend Retreats. Women travel to be together, create close bonds and further expand their healing. ‘Pathway to Peace of Mind’ is a prerequisite.)
Some days I don’t feel like sharing. Will this still work for me? Creating an open, welcoming and respectful environment for the group is my first Priority. There is no pressure to share and no requirement to join the Facebook group. You can test the waters and see how it feels for you. You can also skip live sessions and access the Recordings instead. And, sometimes when we are feeling really low, it’s actually the best time to remember we are not alone… and make the stretch to come to a live Session.
Can I really make significant progress in the course? Absolutely, if you take advantage of what’s here. The tools can be used for a month or a lifetime. This course is intentionally set up as a one-month experience that can reduce anxiety and bring you a lot of power and energy in a short timeframe. If you need to review tools or something that was shared you can always return to the recordings. Lastly, you can make connections with other moms & wives/partners going through a similar loss–friendships you may cherish for life.
What if I can’t attend live Sessions? Many people have to miss one or more Sessions due to conflicts. The recordings will provide how-to’s for the tools I teach. My sessions tend to have a natural flow with real connection; you are likely to feel as if you are present even if you are watching the recording. You can also ask me questions in the Facebook group or Private Message me on Facebook Messenger.
Since this is grief-related, why is there a charge? Pathway to Peace of Mind is a tool-based step-by-step online program, rather than a local support group supported by volunteers. And unlike typical online programs, no sessions are pre-recorded. I not only teach the tools but also address the particular needs of the women who are present. Since some women are significantly affected by loss-related costs, I founded a nonprofit, MindPeace Miracles, to accept donations and provide programs for those in need. The misson is to support women and their families facing significant loss through tool-based educational programs, helping them go beyond surviving to thriving, by developing deep meaning, purpose, and joy in life once again.
Do you have a Bio I could check out, Elaine?
“Elaine is a healer at heart… that is her life’s work. But more importantly, she has taught me how to heal myself. What really makes Elaine stand apart is not only what she delivers but also the caring and compassion she has for the people she works with.” — J.N.
And I want you to know …
In a 4-week course I can’t teach you everything I used to heal my life after major loss. However I’ve carefully selected what I believe will give you the most benefit in a brief timeframe.
If you are ready to try something unique and powerful to make progress, join me. Not only will you be taking care of yourself by learning a new way through these difficult times, you can lovingly impact the people around you in a very positive way, too.Yes, please register me!
Soon after you register, you can schedule your appointment with Elaine. Private session by Phone, Skype or Zoom.
New Course Dates Coming Soon!
My true wish for you is that you fully reclaim your life.
May you find real peace of mind.
And may we have the good fortune of meeting & working together!**
Addtional Program Details I need to let you know…
Due to the small-group focus and personalized nature of Pathway to Peace of Mind, we have a NO REFUND policy.
Availability of Recordings
Videos are available to stream and Audio recordings can be downloaded. All materials will be available online for 2 months after the last session of your ‘Pathway to Peace of Mind.’ You will be notified by email the date by which you must download materials.
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All material here and in all programs created by Elaine Alpert is under copyright and/or trademark law and may not be duplicated or distributed in any way. All processes and tools delivered are to be used for personal use only. By purchasing these courses you are acknowledging copyright and trademark law.
*If you want to use these tools in ways other than for personal use, please contact Elaine Alpert for written permission.
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